There are several issues why someone – regardless of age – should no longer drive. These might include poor vision, limited flexibility or mobility, certain chronic conditions, medications taken and dementia. There are also a number of signs that driving may no longer be wise, including at-fault accidents, getting lost on familiar roads, drifting into other lanes, inability to drive the speed limit, etc.
The difficult part is not identifying unsafe driving skills or conditions that might make driving unwise. The challenge is in convincing your loved one that they should not drive.
I’ve said many times that outside of NASCAR fans, the frustration (and range of other emotions) has little to do with an inability to drive. Rather, the emotions arise out of a perceived loss of independence.
In Finding Freedom at Home: The Ultimate Guide to Home Care, I discuss these issues and offer some suggestions on how to talk with your loved one about it in a respectful way. We would be happy to send a copy of our book to anyone who is facing this issue with a loved one.
“Americans are broad-minded people. They’ll accept the fact that a person can be an alcoholic, a dope fiend, a wife beater, and even a newspaperman, but if a man doesn’t drive, there is something wrong with him.”